Personal Development

#singlelife: Why I’m doing nothing on Valentine’s and why it’s okay

Chocolate Day, Independence Day, Singles Awareness Day, etc.

Valentine’s is a somewhat polarizing holiday for most people. For me, it’s another day in the year with chocolate as a key food.

I never really do anything on that day. If most people and companies didn’t make such a big deal about, I wouldn’t really remember it.

And that’s okay.

It’s okay as a single person to do nothing on Valentine’s Day.

Here’s why.

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It can be a day of reflection

As an introvert, I often look back on the relationships that could’ve happen.

(I know they would’ve never happened, lol.) 🤣

If by some miracle they did happen, I would not be happy in the slightest.

If you didn’t know this about me, I flunked out college in my sophomore year. I eventually went back to that same school as a transfer student and am doing way better.

I can attribute my flunking to not understanding my priorities in college. I put keeping my facade and reputation over actually learning.

If I had a partner to also deal with in that period, I probably wouldn’t even be back in college honestly.

So I personally know that it can be a great way to look at the “what ifs” and see why it was good or beneficial that it stayed as that.

But don’t make it as a depressing time. Hang out with friends and talk about those crushes that were lapses in judgement.

It saves money

I’m not going to lie. It’s soooo much cheaper.

No fancy dinners. No dressing up for the day. No cards, candies, or champagne.

Treating the day as any other is just better for your budget in the long run.

Because some people seem to think that they have to top the previous year’s performance.

No. Stop. Just be present and be yourself.

It’s less of an emotional burden

Hopping off the last topic, stop using events like this to define your relationship!

If you can only seem to “show” your love/feelings on days like this, then celebrating the holiday is the last thing you need to be thinking about.

Life can be really taxing on the mind and adding some emotional baggage, such as getting mad someone didn’t give you chocolate on the 14th, is not really productive.

Love is expressed in many ways. Some good, other worse.

As an inexperienced dater (read as no experience), I just feel that maybe having this a s a worry in my current stage of life is a no-go for me.

But hey. This is just my opinion on a holiday I never really cared for so far.

Hopefully, this was a new perspective for you.

If not, tell me how you feel about Valentine’s.

Let me know in the comments below and I’ll see you in the next post. 💖

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